You know what happy people do?
They sing in the rain. They smile in the face of adversity. They pick themselves up after a fall. They see the glass as half full, representing hope instead of the half emptiness of despair. They laugh. They make jokes during stressful moments. They pursue hobbies. They love.
I’m learning. Every single day. A new world awaits!
It’s taken me quite some time to get to this place in life, and I mostly like the person I am. Sure, I have my moments, things get me down sometimes. Who doesn’t? Life is like that, I guess. Hard work, sweat, tears, blood. It hasn’t been all bad, of course. But when things were down….they were REALLY down.
I had an epiphany about a week ago, and then I saw this pic on Facebook. It was like a flashbulb went off in my head. OMGosh….really?
All this time I felt guilty, like I was the one that was wrong, or that something was wrong with me. I thought if I only lost weight, didn’t express an opinion, agreed with everything, they’d love me, finally. But nothing I do, or say, or think can make the people who’ve been bullying me my whole life less poisonous. They are who they are because of their own past, the events and people that shaped them. It’s NOT my fault, and I’m NOT going to take the blame any longer.
I’m done apologizing for being me. I’m done letting the judgments hurt me or make me feel unworthy. I’m done worrying about what people think. From now on, I’m gonna do what I want to do, and to heck with the rest. It’s MY life, right? I wasn’t put here to make anyone but ME happy!
Like my mom always says, “I’m ok, it’s the REST of the world that’s wrong!” Amen, momma!
You know what? I’m VERY newly in the blogging game, but haters lurk everywhere, out here in the “real” world, on social networks, on blogs, at Walmart, everywhere. I’m printing this excellent reminder and taping it up on my wall where I can see it every day. Carry on! (MUCH thanks to Karen Gunter of build a little biz, who got it from Inspiring Mums. There’s also a version with blank bubbles so you can fill in your own words!)
I also read Chris McCombs’ blog post and wow….what a timely message for me, especially after this week. “How to Get More Haters” put a new spin on the scourge of the interwebs and gave me a little perspective in my non-cyber life, too.
Have a GREAT, AWESOME, LOVELY weekend, y’all! (And how do you like my new “signature” graphic?)
Lately I’ve been on a DIY kick; home improvement, making my own cleaning stuff, and making my own cosmetics/personal care items. I’ve made lotion bars, sugar scrubs, and melt and pour soaps for a while now, but I just recently started trying things like deoderant, laundry soap, cleaners, etc. It’s pretty cool and I plan to add more to my repertoire as I go along.
Today I’m going to share my recipe for homemade deoderant and let me tell you….this stuff is AMAZING! I’ve researched what goes in to store-bought deoderant/antiperspirant, and it’s REALLY not pretty. Some of these ingredients have been linked with cancer and Alzheimer’s and given that my family has a history of Alzheimer’s, what more encouragement do I need to find a natural alternative? Please do the research for yourself and see what I mean!
I used this recipe as the basis for my efforts, but then had to tweak a little because the baking soda was irritating me. I will post below what I eventually came up with.
Homemade Amazing Deodorant:
Adapted from Passionate Homemaking
The original recipe calls for either corn starch or arrowroot powder, but since I had both, I used both. Some folks complained about irritation in the comments due to the amount of baking soda- and found that using less helped. I have had no problem with the amount of baking soda so I will continue with these proportions. Also the coconut oil can go from solid to liquid depending on the storage temperature. Mine stays at a perfect semi-solid in my bathroom, and melts to an oil when I rub between my fingers.
5-6 tablespoons coconut oil
1/8 cup arrowroot powder
1/8 cup cornstarch
1/4 cup baking soda
Several drops of bergamot oil [optional]
Mix the powders together in a jar and slowly add the coconut oil until you have a “pomade” consistency and powders are mostly dissolved. Add a few drops of oil until it has a lovely hint of scent.
To use, scoop out a pea sized amount and rub between your fingers to melt and create a smooth texture. Apply under your arms and rub any left into your hands as a moisturizer.
Since the coconut oil changes rapidly from a solid to a liquid I would not recommend trying to use a traditional deodorant “stick” but rather to scoop from the jar.
If you are at all hesitant about making your own, this is the recipe that will win you over! Non toxic, plastic free, sustainable, and extremely effective. Total win-win.
I didn’t have any bergamot oil or arrowroot powder, so I replaced the bergamot with tea tree oil, and just used cornstarch instead of cornstarch AND arrowroot. I do plan to get some arrowroot powder so I can try it….one more thing on the list of things to do!
So, since I had to tweak it by taking out the baking soda, using all cornstarch, and using tea tree oil instead of bergamot oil (which I would have loved, bergamot oil smells nice!), this is the recipe I’m using and LOVE so far!
5-6 tablespoons coconut oil (I ended up only using 4, I guess the substitution of cornstarch for the baking soda changed the consistency of the paste)
1/2 cup cornstarch
Several drops of tea tree oil (I used 5)
Several drops of skin-safe fragrance oil (this is probably not totally “green,” but I wanted to scent it with something besides tea tree oil, not that I mind the scent of it, I don’t. I used 6 drops of FO, Grapefruit Mangosteen. Smells like HEAVEN, I tells ya!)
I’m so sorry I didn’t take any pictures of the process, but it’s pretty straightforward and if you follow the steps above, it won’t be a problem at all. It’s simply mix all the ingredients to make a paste, put it in a jar, done! How easy is that? The link for the original recipe has some very good pictures if you need to see the deoderant being made. It will be the consistency of homemade frosting once everything is mixed.
I’ve been using this deoderant for a couple of weeks now, and it works GREAT! Lasts all day and has not marked my clothes at all. Give it a shot, what have you got to lose? If it doesn’t work out, you’re only out a few cents for the ingredients, and they can be used for other things, anyway. I hope you enjoy!
All I have to say, and much I couldn’t articulate: